Ian’s Story: Overcoming the Odds

Part 2 of a 3-part blog series about The Coalition’s National Program Advisor, Ian Forber Pratt

In a cluttered, sweltering government building in Rajasthan, India, Ian Forber Pratt stood sweating in the office of the Director of the Department of Child Rights (DCR). He had come to ask permission to do something unprecedented: create a foster care system from scratch.

After hours of waiting, The Director invited Ian inside his office, paper files stacked in all directions, and asked what he wanted. Less than a minute into Ian’s prepared speech, The Director cut him off. He thanked Ian for his time and told him to get out of his office.

It would be the first of many rejections.

Just months earlier, Ian had sold everything he owned and moved from St. Louis to India. He arrived in the city of Udaipur with three bags of clothes. He knew only three people: a woman in Calcutta who ran a small group home for disabled girls, a hotel owner, and a tour guide. Although he’d taken a Hindi immersion course while still in the States, he had trouble communicating, especially in the jargon of child welfare.

“Family is a core value for Indians,” said Ian. “But bringing unknown children or young people into their homes – that required a complete mindset change. It was much easier for the government to say ‘Foster care will never work in our country.’”

But Ian saw a dire need. In 2009, more than 31 million “orphaned” children were living in India. Many were abandoned by their parents due a combination of extreme poverty, gender discrimination, and an ancient caste system that defined boundaries and limited opportunities. With no alternative, those children ended up in orphanages run by the Indian government, or private unregulated homes. These children tended to end up in extreme poverty, used as child labor, or abducted by traffickers.

The government recognized there was a problem. More than a decade earlier, India had launched the Juvenile Justice (Care and Protection of Children) Act, which aimed to protect the rights of all vulnerable children, especially orphans. Although all Indian states were asked to adopt those statutes, none actually knew how to implement it. What they lacked was a bridge between the abstract theories of child protection and the messy reality of life on the ground in desperately poor communities. Ian knew that if he wanted to get kids out of orphanages and into families, he’d have to rely on skills honed at the Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition.

Ian’s time at the Coalition taught him how to be that bridge. He had seen experts lead a reluctant system toward change through a mixture of self-awareness and tenacity. He thought he had the answer for millions of children, but he knew he needed to learn the heartbeat of India first. He bought a motorcycle and spent time roaming the streets, immersing himself in the culture.

“I was spending 18 to 19 hours a day researching the systems, the infrastructure,” Ian said. “I reached out to every person and organization I could find in the child protection space, letting them know who I was and what I was trying to achieve.”

Even registering a non-governmental organization (NGO) was a grueling process. Ian knocked on door after door of government agencies, asking for help in navigating the bureaucracy, only to be turned away.

“There’s no other way to say it; I was burning out. I had no money. There was enormous resistance and many levels of corruption,” Ian recalled. “But I had a global network of friends and family. I had invaluable mentors at the Coalition who I was calling every other week. I funneled that energy into my work. I camped outside those government offices, drinking their tea, and learning how to break through the administrative red tape.”

The next summer, Ian’s family flew him out to London where they had all gathered to watch his sister compete in the Summer Paralympics. The trip turned out to be a turning point for Ian. While there, he met with Core Assets, a leading for-profit foster care agency in the UK.

Halfway through his pitch about his work in India, the Core Assets team was rapt. They brought in more staff to listen. Ian started his story from the top. They asked tough questions, but as the meeting ran over the questions kept coming. When the questions stopped, a VP of Core Assets asked Ian what his plans were. He started to talk about India and the VP stopped him, laughing. He clarified that he meant that weekend.

Core Assets flew Ian out for a EUSARF conference in Scotland that day, where he learned from and networked with 600 child welfare delegates.

He left Scotland with an army of support … and his first personal financial backing. It was his first major win. The entire flight home, Ian couldn’t shake the feeling he was dreaming.

Little did he know, the greatest gift was yet to come.

In 2013, he headed to a Dehli government conference to present his ideas about creating a foster care system in India. He arrived late and sat next to a woman, Nargis. They began to talk, and soon they weren’t listening to the presentation at all. Nargis was the founder of an organization in the south Delhi slum in which she was raised which educated 100+ children each day. She was brilliant and compassionate. Despite the difference in their backgrounds they had an immediate connection.

Ian had been running at full speed – often completely alone – for years, laser-focused on his mission to help families in India. Meeting Nargis was an unexpected, beautiful reminder that he, too, deserved a family of his own. They were quickly married, adding a richness to life that he didn’t know existed.

Ian continued to work tirelessly to shift the narrative in India about children in care and to solidify a strategic plan for Foster Care India, his newly incorporated nonprofit. He remained in close contact with the team at Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition, seeking their guidance on how to build a scalable system, from policy to practice.

Knowing that systemic change required the state government’s support, Ian returned to The Director in Rajasthan’s capital city of Jaipur every single month to inquire about writing a law to establish foster care in Rajasthan. After two long, grinding years (with pressure from the community he had mobilized), Ian got his wish; there would be foster care in Rajasthan.

More success quickly followed. Money from UNICEF began to arrive and local support began to trickle in. Governments of States and Union Territories asked Ian and his team to train their social work forces. The community and government began to invest in Ian’s work. Soon, he was managing a team, and was regularly in The Director’s office, rather than waiting outside.

Like all revolutionary ideas, what once seemed impossible was now closer to reality. Rajasthan was slowly implementing a system, with Ian consulting on its creation. Then one day he got a call from Delhi. The Minister of Women and Child Development for the entire country wanted to know if Ian would help them draft a law creating foster care nationwide? Clocking the irony for just a moment, Ian smiled and said yes. The Minister asked if he would be able to Co-Chair the committee responsible.

In just a few years, Ian helped take foster care in India from a fringe idea to a national reality. He learned from those who had been working in the field for years and saw every move as a collaboration. Soon, states across India began to ask him to help draft their legislation.  The nonprofit he started in a dormitory room had become internationally recognized, and was regularly presented at high-profile conferences.

But there were downsides.

He and Nargis had their first son, Zane, in 2017. Choking pollution in the city and a lack of educational opportunities had begun to convince them that Zane’s future would be brighter in the United States. Additionally, because of the threat he posed to the profitable orphanage industry, Ian often received anonymous threats. More and more, another homecoming of sorts seemed in order.

Discussing his concerns over the phone with friends and mentors at the Coalition one day, a new need came up … this time in the United States. There were organizations developing innovative solutions who worked directly with the most vulnerable children in foster care, but they couldn’t get the funding to scale those solutions beyond their immediate community. They needed someone to bridge the gap.

As they packed up their belongings, Ian tucked away the knowledge he had gained over the last six years. He had witnessed a grassroots advocacy movement steadily transform a rigid bureaucracy. A country steeped in tradition had discovered an authentic way to expand its core belief of what a family might look like. Poor communities had the opportunity to be innovative in improving the quality of life for their most vulnerable members. For the first time, orphaned children could hope to grow and heal in the love of a family.

Boarding the plane, Ian looked at his wife and son. He knew firsthand the power of a family’s love to transform a life.

“Family is a core value for Indians,” said Ian. “But bringing unknown people into their homes – that required a complete mindset change. It was much easier for the government to say ‘Foster care will never work in our country.’”

Ian’s Story: Standing in the Gap

Part 1 of a 3-part blog series about The Coalition’s National Program Advisor, Ian Forber Pratt

Ian Forber-Pratt went to the courthouse in 2009 to begin his first case as an Extreme Recruiter. He entered the courtroom to the sound of screaming. Ian backed against the wall as Mallory*, age 14, was wheeled out of the chamber, strapped down to a gurney.

In many ways, Mallory was typical of the kids served by Extreme Recruitment®. She was a teen. Her mother struggled with opioid addiction. Her father unknown. As a child in foster care, Mallory did not live with a foster family. Instead, she bounced from institution to institution. At 13, she had a child of her own who was quickly separated and placed with another family.

Ian did not fit the profile of someone working directly with the hardest-to-place youth in foster care. In his second year of a Master’s of Social Work program at the Brown School at Washington University, most of his peers were auditing policy and beginning academic research. But Ian’s passion was always to directly impact the lives of vulnerable children. As he searched for a practicum opportunity, he found a group of reform-minded social workers at the Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition. He cold-called for a job.

When Ian started as a practicum student at The Coalition, the child welfare landscape was radically different. Though Washington University taught a curriculum of data, outcomes, and measurable success, those doing the work did not speak the same language. Social work was largely based on what felt right. The Coalition was looking to inject more rigor into the system.

“It was so exciting to get in on the ground level of something like Extreme Recruitment®,” says Ian. “The Coalition immediately set itself apart by committing to hard data. It’s not about reducing the human touch in the work we do, but reducing mistakes and setting aspirational goals.”

By bridging the gap between cutting-edge research and direct impact on children’s lives, The Coalition, aimed to raise the bar for success in the St. Louis community. Research had shown for years that older children were the most likely to “age out” of foster care without a permanent family. Only about 50% of kids who age out graduate from high school. One in five are homeless. One in four are incarcerated. 71% of girls will have their first child and more than 60% of those will have a second by the age of 21.

This is why Ian knew Mallory’s case would not be easy. She had no contact with family, and no understanding of her past. There were no consistent relationships in her life and a decade of trauma in her rearview mirror.

He began by reconnecting Mallory with relatives. With the assistance of The Coalition’s private investigators, Ian was able to give Mallory a better understanding of where she came from. Despite her family’s struggles, they had strengths, and by helping her see them, Ian was able to convince Mallory she had her own.

Beyond the challenges of the direct work, Ian and his colleagues still met resistance in the community.

“We would go into meetings and nobody understood why we were there,” says Ian. “They were asking, ‘What do we gain from challenging the status quo?’ It took enormous persistence on the part of the team just to walk in and say ‘We are not going to stop until this child has options for a family and community.’”

Their determination was unwavering.

“They began each Extreme Recruitment® meeting with the question, ‘If we do nothing for this child today, where will he or she be in 5 years?’” Debbie Genung, Sr. Development Director for The Coalition, recalled. “When it came to finding safe, nurturing homes for these kids, no stone was left unturned. It was incredible to watch the program – and the team – grow.”

As the program gained traction and more children were successfully reconnected with their families and placed in permanent homes, partner agencies began to refer cases to The Coalition.

It wasn’t long before news of this groundbreaking work began to spread beyond St. Louis.

In 2010, the New York Times gave credence to the innovation and efficacy of the program in an article discussing the importance of family finding and relative placements. Shortly after, TIME Magazine published an in-depth article about Extreme Recruitment, highlighting an extraordinary case in which Ian and The Coalition’s private investigator found 128 relatives for a child in foster care – all in a one-week timespan.

But what drove home the team’s impact most were the stories. Mallory did not have an easy life before Extreme Recruitment, and she was not suddenly healed by Ian’s work. But he set her up to succeed, connecting her to a network who could assist and inspire her in times of crisis. He helped Mallory find her strengths. Ian helped her become a part of something. Today, Mallory has a great job with benefits at one of the region’s largest healthcare systems, and has custody of her children.

Seeing kids meet their potential in the face of overwhelming odds and a dysfunctional system inspired Ian, but it also made him question what else was possible. Bearing witness to that success lit a spark which grew over the years into something like a compulsion. It lit a spark to go home.

Ian was adopted as a newborn in 1980 from Calcutta, India. He grew up in a supportive, doting family. But since he could remember, he felt a yearning to go back, to change the stories of children who had been born like him but had not found the gift of family.

As he prepared for a career in child welfare, Ian began to study Hindi, even enrolling in a language immersion course at Saint Louis University. At the end of long nights spent studying or working cases for The Coalition, he’d think about how to apply what he had learned to create similar impact in India.

What he imagined was beyond the scale of anything he’d done, or even anything he’d studied. Ian dreamed of a foster care system that stretched across India. A system to protect children from abuse and neglect, place them in safe and loving families rather than institutions, and help communities heal from cycles of poverty and trauma.

In April of 2011, Ian sold almost everything he owned, and, with a little seed money from his colleagues at The Coalition, moved to Udaipur, India to attempt the largest child welfare reform in the history of that country.

Ian laughs when asked about what he was thinking as he left. “If I had known hard it was going to be, I probably wouldn’t have even gotten started.”

*Name changed for privacy

“It was so exciting to get in on the ground level of something like Extreme Recruitment®,” says Ian. “The Coalition immediately set itself apart by committing to hard data. It’s not about reducing the human touch in the work we do, but reducing mistakes and setting aspirational goals.”

Gabriella & Vanessa

Gabriella (or Gabby) is a super fun fourteen-year-old girl, looking for a family to call her own. Gabby considers herself to be a girly-girl, except for when she is playing football or fishing! When asked to describe herself in four words, she immediately said bubbly, outgoing, curious, and expressive! You can frequently catch Gabby dancing, singing, and listening to music. She’s also interested in fashion, drawing, make-up, doing crafts, and playing with animals. Gabby feels at home in the classroom and can’t think of a single thing she doesn’t love about school. Gabby is working on her ability to recognize, accept, and cope with her emotions. She needs a role model in her life who can guide her to increase positive insight and judgment.

Vanessa is a sweet-natured, thirteen-year-old young lady. She is bubbly, shy at times, caring, and shows compassion towards others. She is smart, funny, kind, thoughtful and friendly. Vanessa loves to play basketball and volleyball. She also loves to do any kind of art. In her spare time, you can find her swimming, enjoying the outdoors, watching scary movies, or experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen. She prides herself on being incredibly organized and trustworthy. At school, she is engaged and makes friends easily. She is easy-going and up for anything. Although she is laid-back, she can stand up for herself and advocate for herself. She is not afraid to be her own person and try new things.

Gabby and Vanessa are looking forward to joining a family together. Currently placed apart, they are craving a place where they can live together, enjoying the unique bonds of sisterhood. They are also open-minded about adoption and would like to join a family that will take them out for ice cream, let them have a family pet, and allow them the opportunity to enjoy their teen years as typical, carefree kids. Gabby and Vanessa say the perfect parents for them will be unconditionally loving, accepting of who they are, and open to letting them experience new things.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Hope

Hope is an adorable 13 year old young lady with brown eyes and black hair. She is affectionate and sweet natured, yet she can be feisty. Hope loves one on one attention. Hope enjoys spending time with nurturing women who she can look up to for guidance and support. Her favorite foods are ramen noodles, hot wings, White Castle, cereal, and pizza rolls. She enjoys being outside when the weather is warm. Hope would enjoy a family that is active and loves participating in community activities. The best family for Hope would be one that will emphasis education and are willing to empower Hope as she continue to blossom in a structured, stable environment.

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Edna Green – Wendy’s Wonderful Kids Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
c 314.614.2413
e ednagreen@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Lavon

Ten year old Lavon will quickly catch your heart with his sheepish smile and soft spoken demeanor. Don’t be fooled though, he is an active kid who you can expect to join a pick up soccer game at the park. Lavon loves all sports with his go to being soccer and football. He loves to go to the park and play with other kids!

When he isn’t outside burning off energy, he can be found playing the game that has taken the world by storm, Fortnight. Lavon also likes to play board games and is a great winner at UNO! Like your typical ten year old, he loves super heroes with Falcon being his favorite. Lavon likes school and says that his favorite subjects are Math and Recess! He has a hearty appetite as a growing young boy and loves chicken and onion rings.

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Amanda Denning – Extreme Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
e amandadenning@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Tess & Ayden Gaeng

We sat down with Tess Gaeng, a recent “graduate” of our Dennis & Judy Jones Family Foundation Foster Care & Adoption Program, and mom to four-year-old Ayden.

Why did you decide to foster?

I always knew I wanted to be a parent, but I wasn’t sure that biological children was the way that would happen. I was certain that I would foster or adopt at some point in my life. At the age of 33, I decided to move forward, and I completed licensing through Children’s Division.

Can you share a little about your first placement?

My degree is in social work, and I have worked extensively in Early Childhood, so I originally agreed to foster a child up to five years old; later, I agreed to expand that to eight years old. In the spring of 2014, I welcomed my first placement – an eight-year-old girl. It was her first time in care, and they didn’t think she’d be with me for long. It was a little overwhelming at times. She was sick frequently, so I was taking a lot of time off of work. But it was a good experience for me as I was learning how to navigate this journey as a foster parent. They found a relative for her to live with after about six weeks.

A few years later, I saw a post on Facebook and I called The Coalition. They told me about the program, and I began my training in March of 2017.

Tell me about your son.

Ayden was my first placement through the Jones Program. I got the call about him when he was three years old. He and two of his brothers had been in care since their parents passed away the year before. Relatives were involved but unable to care for him full-time.

Ayden is funny. He loves animals – especially our dog. Horses are his favorite right now, but he loves all farm animals. He is very bright, and enjoys reading and learning new things. He’s affectionate and sweet and empathetic. At home, he loves to help and be a part of things. He is the youngest of seven siblings, and is busy and active – he is constantly on the go!

When did you know he was your son?

The thought of him leaving began to weigh heavily on me. I knew him so well, and wanted to be sure that he always had someone to rock him to sleep at night … those little things that I knew he craved. I realized, “He’s good here. I can do this, we will be okay.”

So when was the adoption finalized? How did Ayden handle it?

The conversation about adopting Ayden began in the spring, and it was finalized last fall. He is only four, so I don’t know that he understands everything quite yet. But as we talked about it, it was clear that it stirred things up in him. He told me, “I was with my other mom but she died. I have a new mom. You’re my new mom, and you keep me safe.” Ultimately, that’s what is most important for him to know.

On November 7, 2018, we went to the courthouse to finalize his adoption. Most of my family was there, and so was Ayden’s biological grandmother. We went out to lunch to celebrate, but kept it pretty low-key – I didn’t want to overwhelm him. I explained to him that he now had a new last name (Gaeng).

In our conversations leading up to that day, the idea that he was adopting me seemed to sit better with Ayden. Maybe it helped him have some control over a situation he didn’t quite understand. A few nights after his adoption, we were at home and something clicked for him. He turned and looked at me, and said, “The Gaeng is here now! My name! It means I’m going to be your mom forever.”  We all had a good laugh – it’s a moment imprinted in my mind.

How has Ayden stayed connected to his siblings and biological family?

While Ayden’s two older brothers, Kayden and Darian, were in care, I got to know their foster mom pretty well. We made sure that the boys got together at least once a month, and more when possible. The two of them were adopted a few weeks after Ayden was, and we celebrated their birthdays with them recently. Their older sisters and grandmother also came! Kayden and Darian’s adoptive family invited us all over on Christmas Day again last year and all 7 siblings were together, plus Ayden’s two nephews, niece, grandma, and a close friend of Ayden’s mom.

Keeping Ayden connected to his siblings and grandma has shown me firsthand the importance of these biological family connections. He loves seeing them, and visits with them reassure him that they are all safe and still there for him. Getting to know his sisters has been awesome for me, too. They have shared some of their family history with me, so that I’ll be able to share it with Ayden as he gets older. This will be a part of his identity that he would not have known if we didn’t have an ongoing relationship with his family.

What has been one of your favorite family memories so far?

His first Halloween was a funny experience. I was trying to explain costumes to him, which was something he’d never seen or experienced before. We went to the store and I helped him slip into a llama costume. When he saw himself in the mirror, his eyes got huge. He looked up at me as if to say, “I can’t believe I’m a llama!”

What have you found most useful about the Coalition?

When Ayden was first placed with me, I went to ReSource and was able to stock up on clothes and other necessary items for him at no cost to me. That was so helpful!

I originally received training and licensing through another agency. My license expired, and when I came to The Coalition for STARS training, it was a totally different experience. It was a supportive and very honest environment. Connie and Katie were my trainers, and I felt properly educated. They were patient and encouraging, and used humor and lightheartedness to keep everyone engaged and confident in what we were learning. They focused so much on the positive aspects (without sugarcoating it), sharing our kids’ potential and our role in that as foster parents. Throughout this journey, Carrie Clark, the Coalition’s Family Support Specialist, has also been a huge support. After Ayden was placed with me, I went through the 7-week Trauma Training in the Jones Program (led by Nickie), which was also incredibly informative.

In all of my interactions with Coalition staff, they gave me confidence that they would be there for me– not only throughout the training and licensing process, but also after that when I put my training to work as a foster parent.

What have you learned over the last year?

The training prepares you, but the biggest learning for me has been around the impact of trauma on these children. You have to parent differently than you would with typically-developing kids who do not have severe trauma history. Despite having a background in child development, this knowledge was a game-changer for me. I read as much as I can to better understand Ayden’s behavior, looking through this trauma-informed lens.

To anyone who is thinking about fostering … what would you tell them?

I would say to go through The Coalition! I had such a good experience here, I always direct people to their resources. And I tell people who are interested that they should pursue it – but first, learn about it. Educate yourself. This isn’t about “saving” children or something you only do out of the goodness of your heart. You have to really be invested and learn how to do this effectively.

“In all of my interactions with Coalition staff, they gave me confidence that they would be there for me– not only throughout the training and licensing process, but also after that when I put my training to work as a foster parent.”

Mariah

Mariah has a smile that will capture your attention! She is a playful, witty, charismatic, and creative young lady. She is described by others as adventurous and not afraid of being unique or trying new things. She enjoys playing dress up and having her nails done, but this ‘girly girl’ also describes herself as an occasional tomboy who loves playing outside. Her hobbies are swimming, cooking, and arts and crafts, but she has also expressed an interest in learning new skills like gymnastics and karate. As you can tell, she loves staying on the move!

Mariah would like to be adopted by a loving family, but has reservations about a family being able to unconditionally commit to her and  will benefit from a slow, patient transition. Although initially shy, she will blossom in a nurturing family that understands the impact of loss and is able to provide her with a structured, accepting environment. Maintaining some of her existing relationships is also important to her, so a family that is open-minded to these connections will also be the best fit.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Maliek #30Years30Stories

Maliek was hospitalized after a terrible beating by his father. Lost to addiction, his mother was unable to care for him. 30 Days to Family® found that his maternal grandma wanted him. As a refugee from the Rwandan genocide, however, she didn’t have a good grasp of English. Family Court said that because grandma couldn’t understand the curriculum of the English-only foster care licensure process, she couldn’t take her Maliek. The Coalition raised money to hire a translator and taught grandma one-on-one. 30 Days Specialists also found an aunt in Washington state who eventually took guardianship of her nephew, later moving Maliek and his grandmother out to her home

Jason

With his awesome sense of humor, Jason is a lot of fun to be around! An affectionate and friendly kid, Jason is a great conversationalist with an engaging personality. He is super enthusiastic and is always eager to help others. He takes pride in his strengths, and says he is loyal, creative, and puts others first. Like many 12 years olds, he enjoys gaming devices, but his true love is the outdoors. On sunny days, you can find Jason outside studying insects and wildlife. He’s even taken an interest in gardening and enjoys planting, digging in the dirt, and learning about growing various fruits and vegetables. He is fascinated by ocean life, too. Give him a nature show to watch and he’s hooked!

Jason is looking forward to being adopted. He would do well in any family that can provide him with plenty of time and attention. Nurturing and loving couples or single moms and dads would be a great fit to match Jason’s big heart. This social kid would do well with siblings – as long as they are excited to get out and go on adventures together! Active, fun-loving families who appreciate enthusiasm and a great sense of humor will be a great fit. A family that will also help him maintain his special relationships is important too. If you’d like to learn more about this great kid, please inquire!

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Our Story

“What began as a handful of reform-minded dreamers is now a cutting-edge leader in policy and practice. 30 years in, our groundbreaking and data-driven work has created dramatic change in the lives of our region’s most vulnerable children.”

In the late 1980s and early 90s, the United States was gripped by a drug epidemic. Cheap, readily available crack cocaine created a crisis in communities already wracked by rising poverty and homelessness. Children in those communities were the hardest-hit. Soon, there were more children in foster care than there were parents to care for them. Many spent their entire childhoods in the system, “aging out” of foster care at 18 to face harrowing rates of unemployment, homelessness, and incarceration.

As this epidemic grew, a pioneering group of social workers and foster and adoptive parents gathered to start a new organization dedicated to keep kids from falling through the cracks. They came from all corners of child welfare, and in 1989, with the mission to find a family for every child in foster care, they formed the Foster Care Coalition of Greater St. Louis (now known as Foster & Adoptive Care Coalition.)

What began as a handful of reform-minded dreamers is now a cutting-edge leader in policy and practice. Thirty years in, our groundbreaking and data-driven work has created dramatic change in the lives of our region’s most vulnerable children. Because the Coalition is funded by private individuals and foundations, we have the freedom to innovate and test new strategies. Our community partners have come to rely on the Coalition for help with their most challenging cases. Policymakers at the state and, increasingly, the national level have identified our team as the experts to call in the face of complex child welfare challenges.

Early on, the team realized that many agencies duplicated services, wasting resources and dispersing expertise. With startup funding from a United Way Venture Grant in 1991, the Coalition began to identify and fill gaps in community services. By focusing on unmet needs, our highly independent, issue-focused teams could make a radical difference in outcomes in specific areas, while simultaneously setting the bar higher for others.

One example is our Educational Advocacy team. Launched in 2007, it is still the only foster-focused team of Educational Advocates in the country. Without intervention, children in foster care graduate high school at less than half the rate of their peers, and only 3% will graduate college. The Coalition’s team of lawyers and former teachers partner with schools to educate teachers and administrators about the unique needs of children impacted by foster care, and tirelessly advocate for their rights.

In 2008, the Coalition launched Extreme Recruitment®, a new approach to an intractable problem. For decades, older youth, sibling groups, and children with special needs had languished for years in foster care. Extreme Recruitment® took the unprecedented step of pairing private investigators with highly-trained social workers. By finding hundreds of family members, our team not only increased the odds of adoption, they found relatives to help with childcare, transportation, and respite care. Requests for help from our community partners exploded, and Extreme Recruitment® was even featured in TIME Magazine.

In 2011, the Coalition created 30 Days to Family®, applying lessons learned from Extreme Recruitment® to children just entering foster care. Decades of research showed that kids do better when placed with safe, appropriate relatives. Within a few years, the program was recognized for its unmatched outcomes, and the New York Times featured the Coalition for its innovative work developing 30 Days to Family®.

In fact, with support from our donors, the Coalition commissioned an independent, third-party study of the program. The results were stunning. Children served by 30 Days to Family found family quicker, spent less time in institutions, and were significantly less likely to be forced to move.

This work has become critical since the start of the opioid epidemic. In the last five years, the number of children entering foster care in St. Louis City has increased by 34%, and in the County by 29%. In the last 10 years there has been a 538% increase in babies born addicted to drugs.

Today, the Coalition’s groundbreaking work is being replicated in more than 20 sites around the country, including the rest of Missouri, Ohio, Virginia, New York, and Washington D.C. Our commitment to transparency, accountability, and rigorous self-improvement has made us a model for countless other agencies who want to do better on behalf of kids. As foster and adoptive care has become more family-focused and data-driven over the last 20 years, the Coalition has led that movement here in St. Louis. In 2018, the Coalition even won a prestigious innovation award from the internationally-renowned Council on Accreditation.

Our vision is that every child in our community has a place to call home, a family with whom they can grow and heal. But our team cannot realize that vision alone. Abuse and neglect, addiction and poverty – these scar our children but do not condemn them. Not when there are people willing to step up to say that every child, no matter their trauma, no matter their race or gender, deserves a family. Without that, the last 30 years would not have been possible. Because of that commitment, we cannot wait to see what the next 30 years have in store.

Jahkaiya

Jahkaiya, who is affectionately called “Tweety” by those who know and love her, is an 8-year-old girl with a heart of gold. Outgoing and friendly, she loves music, dolls, and stuffed animals. You can frequently catch her dancing along to her favorite songs and eating lots of her favorite snacks! Her favorite restaurants are Chuck E. Cheese and Burger King, because she loves the paper crowns she is given when she visits.  This princess has never met a stranger, and sometimes needs to be reminded of “stranger danger.” Jahkaiya requires close supervision due to her special needs, however, she doesn’t let that stop her. She is determined to achieve goals that are set for her and needs a loving, patient, and committed adoptive family that will help her thrive and meet her full potential. This is a legal risk placement, as Termination of Parental Rights is currently being pursued.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Lindsay

16-year-old Lindsay is bubbly, witty, and comical. In her spare time, you’ll find her drawing, reading, playing the guitar, and shredding on her skateboard. Lindsay says she is most proud of her musical abilities and her resilience in overcoming life’s obstacles. Lindsay is a sophomore in high school and says math and science are her favorite subjects. She is on the honor roll and is proud of receiving A’s and B’s in the classroom.

Lindsay is ready to meet and move into a pre-adoptive home. She deserves a family that will meet her where she is in life, encouraging her with unconditional commitment, understanding, and belief in her talents and abilities. An adoptive family for Lindsay must be open to continuing counseling and the other supports Lindsay has in place, as well as allowing her to continue the important relationships from her past that have withstood the test of time.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Joseph

Joseph is an active and engaging 14 year old young man who has a huge heart! Joseph’s creativity is a great strength of his and often leads to masterpieces made with Legos. Like your typical teenage boy, Joseph also really enjoys playing video games, especially car racing games. Sometimes he also likes to relax and play card and board games as well. Joseph likes school and his favorite subject is Math. A huge accomplishment of Joseph’s this year is making the freshman football team. Thankfully after all that hard work, he has a hearty appetite to keep up his energy! His favorite meal is homemade fried chicken. He also really enjoys basketball. Joseph reports that when he grows up he wants to be a police officer or go into the military. Joseph also really likes animals and horses are his favorite animal. Joseph is also great helper!

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Amanda Denning – Extreme Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
e amandadenning@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Damon

Damon is a sweet and loving twelve year old boy who loves books and reading.  Those who know Damon describe him as an incredibly sociable and charismatic child, noting that everyone who meets Damon falls in love with him.  Damon enjoys watching CNN and the News; he especially likes to be informed about the weather.  He is really beginning to come out of his shell enjoys the company of adults.  He has a very good memory and reports loving school. Math is his favorite subject and he generally receives good grades. His teacher describes him as a bright child who loves to help the other kids in the room when he is done with his work. She also describes him as a big helper in the classroom. He has a great appetite and loves peanut butter and jelly and mashed potatoes. Some of Damon’s favorite things include the color red and playing with remote control cars, walkie talkies, arts and crafts, and on playgrounds. Damon also lists board games among his favorite activities, especially Uno!  Damon thrives with one on one attention and would benefit from a loving, consistent, and active family.

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Amanda Denning – Extreme Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
e amandadenning@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Chance

Six year old Chance lights up every room that he walks into. He has a megawatt smile and sweet nature. He has brownish red hair and sparkling green eyes. He is cheerful, loves to help, and you will be his best friend the minute you meet him. He loves to do chores such as taking out the trash and helping to put in a new bag, picking things up, and using a feather duster. Chance also loves to play! He likes play dough, doing puzzles of Mickey Mouse, and listening to songs on YouTube that he can dance to. Chance gets so excited when he learns new things and claps for himself at every accomplishment! He also loves to jump on the trampoline, play with the dogs, and go swimming. He’s especially daring and loves to go down the slide at the pool. Chance loves to eat! Like any typical six year old he loves applesauce, pizza, and cheese! Chance is in first grade this year and loves to go to school with his backpack.

https://www.ksdk.com/article/news/outreach/adoption/place-to-call-home-chance/63-523435114

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Amanda Denning – Extreme Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
e amandadenning@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

The Holidays in Foster Care: Why Things Might Get Rough

During the holidays, we are inundated with messages from a number of sources (movies, music, TV, social media, commercials) about how we should be feeling joyful, happy, and thankful. Surrounded by loving (and attractive) family, laughter, fancy food served at perfectly set tables and loads of expensive gifts, these images rarely reflect the truth for the majority of people. For children in foster care, conflicting loyalties and lost dreams can make the holidays an even more especially difficult time. They often report feeling especially vulnerable, lonely and sad, at a time when they are expected to feel exactly the opposite.

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What can those of us caring for these children and youth do or say to ease the pain?

Here are some things you might do:

1. Prepare the foster youth in your care for the holidays in your home

Have a discussion with the young person about your family’s holiday customs. Do you celebrate over multiple days, or is there one “main” celebration? Are there religious customs? Will gifts be exchanged? What should they wear? Who will they meet? What preparations need to be done in advance? Will there be visitors to the home? Will they be taken on visits to the homes of other family or friends? And in all of these events, will your youth be expected to participate? Knowing what to expect will help to decrease anxiety around the holidays. Avoid surprises and you will decrease seasonal tensions.

Of equal importance is to help them talk about their memories of the holidays. Be prepared for anything from fantasies to reports of no memories of anything at all. Give them space to talk and be prepared to validate any feelings they may share with you. Find ways to incorporate any traditions they remember into your family’s celebration.

2. Prepare friends and family before you visit

Let people know in advance about new family members in your home. Surprising a host or hostess at the door with a “new” foster youth may set up an awkward situation — such as a scramble to set an extra place at the table — making the young person feel like an imposition right from the start of the visit. Your preparation of friends should help cut down on awkward, but reasonable questions such as “who are you?” or “where did you come from?”

Also prepare the youth for what to expect. Talk about upcoming events and the people who will be there. If they have not met before, introduce them with old photos or stories about them. Prepare them for the “characters” in your family. Tell them if the celebration will be formal or informal, what to wear, what they will do there, if is a quiet or loud affair, and how long you will stay. If “please” and “thank you” will be expected, role play with the youth until they are comfortable with such expressions.

3. Remember confidentiality

You may receive well-intended but prying questions from those you visit with over the holidays. If your young person is new to your home, it is natural that family members ask questions about your youth’s background. As much as possible, have these conversations ahead of time, without the youth present. Understand that questions are generally not meant to be insensitive or rude, but simply come from a place of not knowing much about foster care. Think in advance about how to answer these questions while maintaining your youth’s confidentiality. Use the opportunity to educate interested family and friends. Pre-establish the boundaries for information sharing.

Discuss with your young person how they would like to be introduced and what is appropriate to share about their history with your family and friends. (Remember, they have no obligation to reveal their past.) Help them to set boundaries and consider a private “signal” to use if they feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed.

4. Arrange meeting your family in advance, if possible

The hustle and bustle of the holidays can make it particularly chaotic for your young person to participate in your family traditions. Anxiety may run high for young people already, and the stress of meeting your relatives may be a lot to deal with. If possible, you can arrange a casual “meeting” in advance of “main events.” If it is not possible or practical to meet beforehand, make a list of names of some of the people they’ll meet and their connection to you. You can also encourage a quick call from relatives you plan to visit to deliver a personal message of “we are excited to meet you” so that your youth knows they will be welcome. Consider making a “hostess” gift with the youth to present to the host of the party. Homemade gifts are always welcome!

5. Have extra presents ready to help offset differences

It should not be expected that all relatives purchase presents for your youth. Be prepared with other small gifts and for those family members that express concern over not having brought a gift, offer one of your “backups” for them to place under the tree. Extra presents may be addressed “from Santa”, even for older youth, to help offset a larger number of gifts other children may receive at the same time. Children often keep count of the number of gifts received (right or wrong) and use it to compare with other kids, so sometimes quantity is important.

At times, foster youth receive gifts from people they do not know. Asking a child to identify gift(s) for their wish list is often met with confusion, resistance or other equally charged emotions. We have to remind ourselves that our excitement and enthusiasm for these types of gifts may not be their experience. In some circumstances, these youth may not have celebrated Christmas before or they are not used to asking for a “gift” but rather for some basic need (i.e., toiletries or food). When encouraged to think “bigger”—beyond just what they need and ask for something that they want—foster children often struggle. Intense thoughts and fears arise: Am I disloyal to my birth parents by requesting/accepting gifts? Does this mean I won’t be home by Christmas?

It’s often our role to help foster youth understand that the community’s desire to give them gifts means only that they are loved. You may need to guard against well-meaning people’s desire to “give a happy holiday for such a deprived, abused little child,” protecting the children from such toxic sentiments.

6. Facilitate visits with loved ones

The holidays can be a busy time for everyone including foster parents and caseworkers. But it is especially important during this time of year to help your young person arrange for visits with loved ones. Don’t allow busy schedules to mean the postponement of these important visits. Try to get permission for your youth to make phone calls to relatives. A youth may wish to extend holiday wishes to relatives and friends from an old neighborhood, but may need your help getting phone numbers together. Use the opportunity to help the youth develop their own address book. If the youth cannot visit, consider including their birth families in your thoughts and prayers. If you are making homemade gifts, consider making ones for the birth family, even if they cannot be delivered immediately.

This is a time when many foster youth feel deeply conflicted about their birth families and worry about them. It is a good time to let them know it is okay for them to be safe and cared for even if their birth family is struggling. Reassure them, if you can, about the safety and care of those they are missing.

7. Help them make sure their loved ones are okay

Young people may worry that their family members are struggling through the holidays. If homelessness has been a regular issue, the winter season may bring cold weather and extreme hardship. Your youth may experience guilt if they feel a loved one is struggling while they, the youth, are living in comfort. Knowing that a biological parent or sibling has shelter from the cold or has their other basic needs met may ease a young person’s mind through the always emotional holidays.

8. Extend an invitation

If it is safe and allowed by your foster care agency, consider extending an invitation to siblings or birth parents through the holidays. It need not be an invitation to your “main” holiday event, consider a “special” dinner for your youth to celebrate with their loved ones. If this not a possibility to do within your home, consider arranging a visit at a local restaurant (ask the caseworker is it would be appropriate for the visit to be unsupervised or if your supervision would suffice). Extending an invitation to their loved ones need not signal to a young person that you support their birth family’s lifestyle or choices — rather it tells a young person that you respect their wish to stay connected to family. You will also send a message to the youth that they aren’t being put in a position to “choose” your family over their bio-family and that it is possible to have a relationship with all the people they care about.

9. Understand and encourage your youth’s own traditions and beliefs

Encourage discussion about the holiday traditions your young person experienced prior to being in foster care, or even celebrations they liked while living with other foster families. Incorporate the traditions the youth cherishes into your own family celebration, if possible. Use the opportunity to investigate the youth’s culture and research customary traditions. If the young person holds a religious belief different from yours, or if their family did, check into the traditions customarily surrounding those beliefs.

10. Assist in purchasing or making holiday gifts or in sending cards to their family and friends

Allow young people to purchase small gifts for their relatives, or help them craft homemade gifts. Help send holiday cards to those that they want to stay connected with. The list of people that your youth wishes to send cards and gifts to should be left completely to the youth, although precautions may be taken to ensure safety (for example, a return address may be left off the package, or use the address of the foster care agency) and compliance with any court orders.

11. Understand if they pull away

Despite your best efforts, a young person may simply withdraw during the holidays. Understand that this detachment most likely is not intended to be an insult or a reflection of how they feel about you, but rather is their own coping mechanism. Allow for “downtime” during the holidays that will allow the youth some time to themselves if they need it (although some youth would prefer to stay busy to keep their mind off other things — you will need to make a decision based on your knowledge of the young person). Be sure to fit in one-on-one time, personal time for your youth and you to talk through what they are feeling during this emotional and often confusing time of year.

12. Call youth who formerly lived with you

The holidays can be a particularly tough time for youth who have recently aged out of foster care. They may not have people to visit or a place to go for the holidays. In addition, young people commonly struggle financially when they first leave foster care. A single phone call may lift their spirits and signal that you continue to care for them and treasure their friendship. Be sure to include these youth on your own holiday card list. A small token gift or gift basket of homemade holiday goodies may be especially appreciated. Most importantly, it is essential to let adoptees, foster children, and those who have aged out of the system know that they are not alone and they are not to blame for their losses.

Understandable behavioral reactions:

Be prepared for the sadness and grief. Talk about your child’s feelings throughout the season.

Give your children time and space to grieve. Grief takes many forms and may be exhibited in lots of ways, including:

  • Reverting back to younger behaviors developmentally
  • Soiling themselves or bedwetting
  • Becoming withdrawn and isolated
  • Having temper tantrums
  • Being rebellious
  • Complaining more than usual
  • Needing to be extra busy to avoid feeling

Try to remember the developmental age of the children you foster. It will also help you to stay patient if you keep in mind the challenges of the season for your child before you react.

Expressions of gratitude don’t often come readily from kids in foster care. Not because they aren’t grateful, but more often because they are in survival mode, especially during the holidays. Amazingly, more kids than not want to know who they can thank for their gifts. Help them to write thank you notes or make “thank you” phone calls to those who made their day extra special.

Religious Differences & the Holidays

The holidays can be tough for foster families. Children in care miss their families and their traditions, while at the same time they may want to be part of the activities of the foster family. When there’s a religious difference between the child’s family and the foster family, things can become even more complicated.

Religion can be a sensitive issue. Legally, birth parents have the right to choose their children’s religion or lack of religion. Placement of their child in foster care does not take away this right.

Of course, most foster parents try to respect the culture and religious customs of the children in their care. But what does this mean when it comes to religion?

The answer lies in establishing open lines of communication among foster parents, DSS, and the birth family. If your agency knows how you feel about religious issues (for example, if prayer makes you feel uncomfortable, or if you feel compelled to convert children and their families), it will make informed placement decisions.

This communication works both ways. The more you know about the religion, traditions, and preferences of birth families, the easier it will be for you to act in a way that honors their beliefs.

Arianna

Arianna is a sweet and vivacious child. Her charming personality and bright smile are hard to overlook. Arianna is 10 years old and in the fourth grade. She loves being a “girly-girl” but has no problem switching it up and dressing down when necessary. Arianna enjoys all types of animals, crafts, Dork Diaries and everything that is the color red. She relishes in being active and would do well with a family that enjoys spending quality time together. Arianna adores when her caregivers take time to do her hair and loves when people say she has an eccentric and creative sense of style, especially when it involves dressing. Arianna is able to effectively communicate her needs and feelings without much difficulty, but she will need a family that is able to continue to enhance this skill. Arianna also enjoys helping others!

Legally free for adoption, Arianna will need a family that is able to provide a calm and predictable environment for her; in addition, to being experienced and trauma informed. Her ideal family would be a two parent home with at least a female parent figure. The team is not opposed to a single female parent, but it will be important for her to have a strong support system and the ability to commit to the one-on-time that Arianna will continuously need. Potential families will also need to facilitate and encourage ongoing contact with Arianna’s sister, who has been adopted separately, through phone contact or visitation.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Brandon

Brandon is an active, kind, and friendly young man. This 13-year-old is a pleasure to be with and his smile will light up any room! By others, Brandon is described as talkative, social, and inquisitive. He describes himself as smart and funny; saying he likes to humor others with his jokes and stories. When he’s not making others laugh, you can find him playing outside, listening to music, and spending time with friends.

With a family, Brandon envisions having several family dogs, walking them with his parents and siblings, and doing other fun activities as a family. He would thrive with a kind, patient understanding family that would help him reach his potential. If you can provide this great kiddo with a loving and committed home, we urge you to inquire. Financial assistance may be available for adoption-related services.

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Ryan

Ryan is an upbeat, charismatic 13-year-old. In his spare time, you can find him building new Lego creations, honing his video game skills, and learning all the words to his favorite songs. When asked to describe himself in three words, he says that he is smart, funny, and creative. Ryan thinks school is awesome and loves learning. He can’t narrow down a favorite subject because he thinks they are all equally fascinating and prides himself on trying his best in the classroom.

Ryan is eager to be adopted and says that for him, adoption means being cared for by a loving family forever. He looks forward to the day that he can belong to a family and feel accepted and celebrated. Ryan’s caseworker will consider all family types for placement.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Colton

Colton has great big brown eyes and a smile that will light up a room! This 5-year-old cutie is naturally happy, curious, and loving to the people in his life. He is easy to smile, giggle, and make eye contact to show his preference and affection for those closest to him. His favorite things are being snuggled, tickled, and rocked by his care providers. He is also thrilled by the opportunity to drive his motorized toy car!

At preschool, Colton excels in social interactions and loves his teachers and peers. Motivated and enthusiastic, Colton follows simple instructions, uses switches to direct activities, and vocalizes to initiate interaction with his peers. He is also showing progress in using his walker.Colton will do well in a family who has the resources and knowledge to raise and support him. He is a joy to know, and an even greater joy to love. With the right adoptive family, in a home of his own, Colton will surely thrive.

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Joshua

Joshua has an infectious laugh and a great smile! This happy child adores spending quality one-on-one time with others and especially loves being tickled. Listening to his music is his favorite activity. He lights up when his favorite songs are played and has a special affinity for classical music. Being outdoors is Joshua’s happy place. He enjoys the soothing sounds of nature and is especially excited when he spots animals or has the opportunity to interact with them.

Joshua is a resilient young man who craves a family. He thrives on consistency, attention, and affirming words. His caseworker will consider all family types for placement.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Serenity

Serenity is a beautiful 15 year old who is ready for a family! She is a happy child, who likes to sing and dance. Serenity loves all things girly. She enjoys doing her makeup, getting her hair and nails done, and anything regarding fashion.  Serenity is very bright. She does well in school overall but does sometimes struggle when she is bored. Serenity is not a picky eater and she has a large appetite. Her favorite foods are pizza, hot wings, and cheese fries. She does not like squash or onions, and she is allergic to seafood. She likes fast food. Serenity has big dreams for herself, and wants to go to college after she graduates high school.

Serenity has been in foster care several years. As a result, she has a hard time learning to trust new people. Once she is comfortable with someone and understands their boundaries and expectations, she can do well. She would do best in a home with no other children, as she enjoys having one-on-one attention and having the focus on her.

Serenity is a resilient young lady who wants to be part of a forever family. She thrives on consistency and positive attention.

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Levelle

Being funny, kind, and a good listener are just a few of the many great things about 11-year-old Levelle! Building Legos or hunting for bugs quickly captures his attention, and he also likes playing video games. For a special treat, Levelle loves trips to Six Flags or adventuring to new places and discovering all they have to offer.

If you ask Levelle, he’ll say that “school is cool.” His favorite subjects are math and science. He has a creative mind and loves using his imagination to build Lego robotics. Those who know him, describe Levelle as having a sensitive spirit and a bright smile. While he can be shy at first, his joyful personality and excitement for new things will captivate any family.

Go-with-the-flow, nurturing, and child-centered parents will be a great match for Levelle. He will thrive in a family where he is the focus of attention and can be showered with the individualized attention he needs and craves. If you have a dog, even better! Levelle has a heart for animals and is hoping to have a canine companion in his forever home. An enriching learning environment with caregivers that are willing to play, explore, and engage in a variety of activities will be a perfect fit for this outstanding child.

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David

David is a sweet five year old boy looking for a forever family! His infectious smile shows off his charming dimples. David has good eye contact and enjoys engaging with adults and other kids. David can be silly, laughs easily, and revels in one-on-one attention. David is independent and likes to try to do most everything himself or with only a little assistance. He enjoys school and generally does well with instructions and activities. David wears glasses at school, but likes to have a break from them when at home. You would never know from his slender frame that David has a great appetite and has never met a food he does not like! David does have special needs and will require a patient and nurturing family that is committed to being his cheerleader, coach, and most importantly, his loving forever family. This is a legal risk adoption.

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Edward

Edward, a charming 14 year old, has the sweetest smile and kindest heart. Edward’s favorite things include basketball, video games, and basketball-involved video games! (Do you see a trend here?) He also likes football, Call of Duty, and surprising others with his acrobatic talents. For example, Edward taught himself to do front flips, back flips, and even head stands. Don’t be surprised if Edward whips out a random headstand when he’s bored. Besides not liking liver and scrambled eggs, Edward is pretty easy going. In the future, he would love to play a professional sport, but has also considered professions as a doctor or sports analyst. Edward deeply cares about others, especially his older sister, De’Zirya. Edward is a natural observer and listener, but can be chatty and goofy when the time is right.

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Edna Green – Wendy’s Wonderful Kids Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
c 314.614.2413
e ednagreen@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Elias

Elias is a handsome 14 year old who has a special talent for drawing. He is a freshman this year and he recently joined Art Club and Card club at school. His preferred subject at school is Science. When he first meets someone he can be very shy, but is engaging once he warms up. Elias really enjoys playing video games, especially on PS4. He is unsure of what he would like to do when he finishes school, but being a video game designer is on the list. He describes himself as kind, funny, honest, and mature. Others describe Elias as a sweet kid with a big heart. He is a great helper around the house who makes dinner once a week. His favorite food is tacos!

For those who are licensed foster/adoptive parents, please contact:

Amanda Denning – Extreme Recruiter

1750 South Brentwood Boulevard, Suite 210, Saint Louis, MO 63144
o 314.367.8373
e amandadenning@foster-adopt.org

For those who are not licensed foster/adoptive parents, please fill out the inquiry form below:

Anthony, Christina, Jaylen & Jaylah

Christina is the youngest of the sibling group, and is always happy, friendly, and helpful. She enjoys singing, playing basketball, and watching the Disney Channel. Her favorite foods are oatmeal and spaghetti. Christina responds very well to encouragement and praise.

Anthony is the second youngest, and he is also a friendly, helpful boy. He enjoys robotics, karate, watching Disney Jr., and soccer. There isn’t a food that he doesn’t enjoy. When you meet Anthony, you will notice that he is always smiling, talking, and very cooperative.

Jaylen is the second oldest, and is outgoing, very helpful, and likes to be an authority figure for his siblings. He enjoys all sports (football being his favorite), watching kid movies, and is in Cub Scouts. Jaylen’s favorite food is hot dogs. When you meet Jaylen, you will see that enjoys being in leadership roles, and responds well to praises and rewards.

Jaylah is the oldest of this sibling group, and is the mature one of the group. She enjoys drawing, reading, and helping out in the kitchen. Jaylah is very friendly, always smiling, and likes to be around older children in the home. Jaylah responds well to rewards, and words of wisdom.

The children are legally free for adoption. The team would like them placed with an adoptive family as soon as possible so attachment can begin. It will be important that the selected family would maintain ongoing contact with their biological brother that is currently out of state.

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Kejuan

Kejuan is a 15-year-old young man who loves sports. He enjoys watching and playing any type of sport, but specifically has a strong love for basketball. He could tell you anything you’d want to know about it and lights up when discussing his favorite teams, players, and their performance statistics. Kejuan is in the 10th grade and considers English his best and favorite subject. He plans to carry that passion into his future studies at Mizzou, where he will major in journalism. He sees himself pursuing a career in sports journalism when he graduates. Kejuan loves spending time with family and friends and is hoping to find an accepting family that will be there for him through all of life’s joys and tribulations. He is deeply loving, personable, and can find the silver lining in any situation; maintaining that a positive attitude can take you everywhere. Kejuan is exceptionally open to the prospect of a forever family and says he never underestimates the power of “putting himself out there.”

For more information, please fill out the inquiry form below: